Anonymous asked: my bf and i have been in a ldr for about 6 months now, and the distance is like a 3 hr car ride apart. He's going away for college and he's going to Arizona most likely, which would pretty much cuadruple the distance. he wants to stay together and thats what we got planned but idk whats going to happen. i thought this was supposed to get easier? :/
Long distance relationships suck. I’m not going to sugar coat it. They blow. Not being able to see them when you want, working around completely different schedules… it’s not easy. Sure you can get used to it, form a routine, make excellent strides in your relationship emotionally and mentally, but not being able to be right thereis always going to be hard.
So yes and no. No, long distance is never going to be easy. Yes, is it possible for good things to come out of it - trust, independence, better communication.
I wish you the best, just know that you got to take each day at a time. And find someone you can talk to and confide in other than your boyfriend. They can help pull you back to reality.
Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm not in an LDR as such but me and this girl love eachother and we live a never long way away. Like a 9 hour flight. It may be up to a year till I see her again and I don't know what to do. She perfect and amazing and everything I want. Should I try get over her. Or hold on for the best. Thank you
What do you think you should do? This is a very personal question. If you think that she is worth it, and you love each other, I have seen it work before. But if you’re doubting, you will struggle. Hoping that I don’t sound elitist (which isn’t my intention), I will say this: long distance is not for everyone. It is hard. And some people depend on the physical side more. That’s not a bad thing at all, but it makes long distance an even greater struggle. You’ll have to look into your own heart and determine how you feel. Good luck, I’m sorry I couldn’t be more of a help.
Anonymous asked: Lately my SO has been going out quite a bit and its kind of bothers me. I'm a full time student with 2 part-time jobs, so I go out a couple times a month, maybe. Every Thurs, Fri, Sat night & Sunday morning he's out with friends, drinking. Most of them are girls. Theres always pictures uploaded the next day and they always have their arms around him. While I trust him and know he detests cheating, it really bothers me. Should I say something or avoid sounding like the paranoid ldr girlfriend?
I think you should say how you feel. But reassure him that you trust him and you don’t believe anything is going on. Don’t accuse them of anything (him or the girls he is with). But just express your feelings as open and honestly as you can. “I feel…” statements go a long way.
Maybe it is because you don’t go out as much and he does? My boyfriend drinks a LOT more than I do, and I know I am definitely more grumpy when he’s out at a party and I am trying to focus on a paper or fall asleep. But he’s living his life and as long as he isn’t cheating and I know I trust him, I want him to go out and have fun!
Just tell him that it’s bothering you and try to talk it out. Maybe there are little ways he can ease the nagging feeling while he’s out, like a phone call date the next morning or something :)
Good luck and I wish you both the best.
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